Q&A: How do I overcome my one physical flaw?
Posted by James on February 24, 2013 · 9 Comments
Question by Samir D: How do I overcome my one physical flaw?
When i look in the mirror i see one flaw that literately makes me get sooooo angry and depressed, but other people say they don’t see it. My two questions are how do i overcome seeing this one flaw, and when you look in the mirror do you see your flaws that nobody else sees?
Best answer:
Answer by Vi
What IS the flaw? And yeah, everyone has flaws they think are horrible that no one else sees!
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your lucky. one flaw?! i have about 30 million. it sucks to look in the mirror…idk if your christian…but i recomend a book by jefferey dean called this is me. I was lucky enough to hear him give out this message at a college in gunnison…and he wrote a book called “this is me”. i bought it, and its really good. (if your a christian)
You just have to learn to accept it for being part of you. I also have a physical flaw which I hate but there’s nothing I can do about it and it’s not my fault it’s there. It’s there and it’s there to stay. You don’t have to love it and embrace it and all of that rubbish. Just accept it and get used to it.
i myself have a small crater on my cheek, when im feeling down it is HUGE but when im feeling normal its tiny, so i guess the way for you to get over it is to feel better about yourself
You know something that happens with most of them. Just stop worrying about it then things will get normal. Because you are the only one who worries about and nobody can’t recognize it. I have a similar problem, so I can understand what you are going through. But I am sure facial flaws can be altered with a good haircut. You need to do this with trial and error method. After trying a good number of haircuts you can find the right one that suits you.
Now answer mine
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nobody is perfect except maybe jessica alba. its only natural to see only your flaws. try and focus on the good things.
most people probably don’t notice it especially if they only see you occasionally. you have spent your whole life looking at your body wishing it could be perfect so it stands out to you. lots of girls hate their nose or freckles but it doesn’t bother you. you don’t even really see it unless they bring it up. its the same for you.
Deal with it. Even the most beautiful people who ever lived have flaws.
We’re all human and being different is what we do best. Embrace how you look – flaws and all.
I’m really skinny by nature; tiny waist, minimal curves. In my textiles class, there’s another girl who’s incredibly curvy. Seriously, her weight has been up and down for years and I’m soo jealous of her shape, while she’s jealous of mine.
But the other day, our teacher asked the whole class if anyone was comfortable with their bodies. I put my hand up, and so did the really curvy girl. All the other girls in the class ranged in shapes and sizes, but I found it ironic that the skinniest (me) and curviest (the other girl) were the only two in the class who were actually happy with how we looked.
What I’m trying to say is – even the people who’re different in every way imaginable can be happy with how they look. Sure none of us are perfect, but you just have to remember that everyone has their own flaws to worry about, not yours.
Hope I helped… And sorry about the rant =]
Yes, I think everyone obsesses about their flaws, but life is too short to worry about it. I’m getting closer to the 50 mark & finally realize that perfection only matters to the youth, because they are trying to attract a mate or impress their peers, but in reality young beauty only lasts for 20 some years, unless you’re a specific ethnicity, then you can count your blessings for young looks that last alittle longer .
If your flaw is only noticeable to you, you really need to ask why you dislike it, because the reflection you see comes from inside you, not the out side. Work on accepting yourself for who you are & what you stand for… your ethics & integrity… & when you find that person you’ll shine vibrantly outwards & attract many people, not just the type that cares what you look like.
However, if your flaw runs so deep that even the goodness about yourself that you admire is over run by thoughts of only the superficial physical form you see in a mirror, you may look into plastic surgery, but don’t make any rash decisions until you find out why you dwell so much on the flaw.
Just a little advice… no one is perfect, not even the most beautiful actress/model/etc., even they see flaws with their bodies. Who put them there… well if you’re religious, God & God made you this way for a reason to help find your life purpose & learn through life lessons. If you’re not religious, you are a product of thousands & thousands of people before you, whose genes created the uniqueness to which all your family share & if you deny that individuality of the human design, you deny the loved ones who preceeded you. You deny their existence, their struggles, passions, beliefs, rituals, identities. You deny your ancestry, thus you deny yourself. You live, you breath, you are & no one else can claim they are you… you are an individual, claim it, live it, be proud of it, before you erase the very image many had shared before you. =)
It’d be easier to know what you perceive as your flaw to answer, but I’ll answer in generalities
Almost everybody has body image issues, which aren’t surprising issues in a society obsessed with appearances and restricted in its interpretation of beauty. Individuals are constantly looking at themselves in the mirror with a mindset that has been contaminated by the ever-present images of celebrities which are deemed to be beautiful by the media, and consequently by society at large. Ordinary people end up comparing themselves to public figures who have the resources to spend on looking good and whose career is based on being attractive, rather than simply accepting their little imperfections as part of who they are.
It is easier to preach the value of self-acceptance in tackling body image issues than it is to carry it out, though, as human beings are designed to take on board the prevailing ideas and views held by other members in their society. Humans are social creatures who crave acceptance from their peers, which generally means conforming to certain expectations in the way they present and conduct themselves when in the company of others.
Adults are aware of what they are unable to change about themselves and typically embrace better what might be seen by others as their flaws than teenagers. It is difficult for teenagers to accept themselves when all they want to do is fit in.
The sooner you realise that nobody is perfect and that even those who seem to be perfect have had a LOT of help to look that way, the sooner you can learn to relax about your own appearance. There is more to people than just their exterior, which can be difficult to appreciate when television and magazines continually focus on the superficial lifestyles of the rich and famous, and give the impression that beauty automatically leads to success and happiness. People can only be happy when they learn to stop comparing themselves to others and focus on all the positive aspects of their lives, not on just how they look.
Peace 🙂
Of course I see flaws in myself, whether they be physical or not, that no one else seems to see. Then again, I’m a perfectionist.